But if women are the "deciders" in speed dating, there's no real gain to be had by dumbing down is there?Instead, be your charming, ambitious, intelligent, attractive self (always my recommendation).On each date, people scored each other on attractiveness, intelligence, ambition, and some other things, along with a to seeing the other person again on a regular date. noted gender differences in mate selection, such as: “Women put greater weight on the intelligence and the race of partner, while men respond more to physical attractiveness.” And this: “Men do not value women’s intelligence or ambition when it exceeds their own.” Seemed like data worth checking out. The point of it all is to match every woman with every man for a short period of time so that by the end, every one has gotten a chance to quickly know each other.In case you’re unfamiliar with the speed dating process, here’s how it works. The assumption is that you can learn a lot about a person in a short period of time. In a Stanford study, researchers found that people do develop real connections with people when speed dating and those connections are dependent on several factors. (I know, thank you, Professor Obvious.) Still, research has some good tips to offer for the speed dating process.
It's important for men to listen, focus on the woman's concerns in conversation and show enthusiasm.
People scored each other on a 1-to-10 scale and indicated whether or not s/he wanted to date the other.
So a few things can happen: This also presented interesting dating styles.
And so for the last 2 years, I’ve attended more speed dating events than I can count. ‘Elite’ speed dating, silent speed dating, blind speed dating, paper bag speed dating, cycle speed dating, literary speed dating … But no matter the gimmick, it always seems to come down to the same brutal truth. Speed dating originated in 1998, and was set up by an American rabbi, as a way for young, single Jewish people to meet one another.
Back in the naughties, when the idea was novel, speed dating events attracted large diverse crowds.